Category Archives: Tough stuff

Why I’m not shutting people down so I can ask “Why?”

We all have stories, and as challenging as it may be, we can invite these stories to unfold and choose to hear them. Hearing them doesn’t mean we condone actions or beliefs. It means that we have strength to move into uncertainty to wonder what’s behind the them. Continue reading

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When a virus breaks your heart

Our heartbreak, reactions, and responses have much to teach us. We just have to look underneath the waves to see what’s fueling them. Continue reading

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An invitation to be vulnerable

The mass shootings this weekend stirred in me something I haven’t written about yet: my uncle was murdered on March 1, 2018. My uncle was a landlord, and one of his tenants shot him with an illegal firearm. Every time … Continue reading

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Fear & failure

This month in my spiritual direction training program we told our sacred stories. These stories included the events, people, and experiences that form us and our spirituality. The program leaders gave us a few prompts, but the real instruction was … Continue reading

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Listening in order to listen

Think about the last time you listened to someone. I mean really, truly listened–not to respond, not to advise, not to fix. Only to listen. Learning to listen During the first two months of my spiritual guidance training, I’ve learned … Continue reading

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Seeing imposter syndrome as an invitation

“Imposter syndrome” is a familiar phrase to academics. It’s feeling like you’ll be found out as a fake, you don’t belong, you’re not good enough, you’re not as knowledgeable as people think you are, and you don’t deserve success. If … Continue reading

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Finding a spiritual home

I’ve been thinking about the idea of home lately. It started when I was on silent retreat last month. During retreat, I read Toko-pa Turner‘s Belonging: Remembering Ourselves Home. In it, she discusses what “home” means and ways to be … Continue reading

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The spiritual life starts with questioning

My spiritual mentor, Sr. Arlene, shared those words with me over 10 years ago. At the time, I understood it to mean “faith starts with your questions”: Who or what is God? What Church doctrine do I accept and reject? … Continue reading

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